Where to start.....

It wasn't a great week this week.  If Tom does have one good day, several not so good days follow.

A long time friend of Tom's called this week to check in.  We haven't talked to him in a while.  He was unaware of Tom's condition and was, needless to say, quite surprised and upset that he didn't know.  He indicated that he wished someone had called him.

I have yet to call him back because I need to make sure I'm in the right place, in my mind, to discuss this with him.   In the meantime, I have thought about what he said - that he wished someone had called him - and the following occurred to me.  If someone gets married, has a baby, retires, gets a new job we might call our friends and family to let them know.  If someone gets a debilitating disease, looses their job, has a car accident, we don't call our friends and family to let them know.  Why, do you suppose that is?  Is it because we don't want people to think we are looking for sympathy?  Is it because it's hard to deal with, so we just don't do it?  Or, is it because we tend to share only the good news for whatever reason?   Who knows, just something to think about, and either way, good news or bad, support from friends and family is invaluable.

Jeff stopped this weekend to show me how to remove the flies from my bathroom light.  I am so inept at doing those chores.  Thank you Jeff.

Our nephew stopped to sand the driveway for us this weekend.  Thank you Jeff.

Our long time friend, and housekeeper, stopped by this week and brought us some tulips to plant indoors, just to bring some springtime into our home.  Thank you Brenda.

Tom's sister made him some peanut butter cookies.  Thanks Pip.  At least he is eating those. 

These are things that people are doing without being asked (well, I did ask Jeff to help with the flies because they were driving me nuts!!)  but just because they care.   As hard as this is, we continue to be so fortunate to have those people around us who care about us.

Thanks Jeanne, for your comment on the last Blog.  How could I not take care of Tom?  He is the love of my life.  I have spent 2/3 of my life with this man who is, without question, the best husband and father anyone could ask for.

I can't thank those of you enough who continue to stop to visit, call, e-mail and just support us in every way.  You can't have any idea, unless you are sitting where we are, how much this helps.